10 weeks...

This is the time the latest citizenship was granted by CIC. This is mean that in around 12 weeks we might be able to flight again to Ethiopia and pick up our son. Wow ! I do not want rejoice to fast and I am still careful knowing that adoption road is full of surprises but I start thinking about our family life more and ever, especially since we are now moving in our new house. This house is not only for me and my husband but also for our son. We choose this house with the idea that a little boy will be living with us and we will start a new life all together. I very love this place because the concept is all open (except for our bedrooms). During the first year (and also later) our family priority will be to create attachment and bonding all together. We are three different persons who need to learn each other and find the way to live as a family. It might seem natural and easy for the majority of family but for us is not. For our child we will be stranger. Yes, I know it seem weird but as much as I am in love with my son right now the reality is... he is not in love with us because he is grieving. For an outside eyes we will look like a happy family (pictures give all the time this impression of forever family joy) but in reality we will face some challenges that usually families does not need to deal with. However, their is hope and the key to have a successful family life will be time, patience and proximity. My son need to understand that I am not a caregiver, I am his mom. So, for a long time, we will look like over protecting him. He will be with us all the time. Of course, he will socialize with friends but mommy or daddy will be all the time around at first and slowly we will give him more independence but it may take a while.

So for the next year, we do not expect a lot of time as couple but time as family. If we need to go somewhere, we will go as family. It will take more organization then we are use to (we are very spoil right now doing what we want when we want) but on the long term, the time we will take as family will pay back and allow my son to have a positive relationship with his new life with us. So, in our new life, we will be all together on good and challenging days.